Sometimes the people in our lives are helpful to our wellness, and sometimes they are not. For example, if there are people who smoke and drink a lot, they might return to your efforts to curb such habits. If you are trying to lose weight, going out with friends to eat at lavish, rich restaurants might not be a great idea. There are also subtle ways that people can stand in the way of your getting better or feeling your best. They might say things that undermine your confidence, like “oh you trying that again?” Or they might remind you of the last time you failed your attempt to improve your health. It is important to pay attention to the folks in your life who are your champions, and those who predict and hasten your downfall.
This does not mean that you have to get rid of all your friends who have bad habits. We still have friends and family who have negative or self-destructive habits whom we love very dearly, and it’s not our job to change or convert them to healthier people. But it might mean looking for an expanding your circle of friends who encourage good health habits. For example, other people with whom you could walk at lunchtime at work? Maybe someone in your family would also like to lose weight or improve their health, and you can be accountability partners for each other. Another place to meet like-minded people are churches or other places of worship, meet up groups, and sometimes even the local parks and recreation department of your city. We encourage you to find people who support your quest for wellness. If you’d like to talk more about your health goals and how to reach them, please call Lisa Larsen, BCC, PsyD at 661-575-7135 or Glen Larson at the same number. We want to be in your corner, helping you be as healthy as you can.